Is "should" stopping you from "could"?

One of the many things that was the catalyst for my period of significant growth and transformation over the last few years was this idea that it’s expected that you should conform to society and its spoken/unspoken (and often unrealistic) expectations.

I struggled with this dialogue I was having with myself daily of “I should be doing this, I should be doing that”.

The word ‘should’ does a very good job of making you feel stuck, trapped and suffocated. You don’t take action or move forward because you’re so worried about what other people will think or say about you.

Feeling guilty or overwhelmed about all these things you “should” or “shouldn’t” be doing, keeps you stuck. The more pressure you put on yourself, the less likely you are to do it. Then you feel rubbish about yourself, adding to the feelings of shame, and then this brings about more “shoulds”. It becomes a vicious cycle.

How often do you tell yourself you “should” or “shouldn’t” be doing something?

I should lose weight.

I should work harder.

I shouldn’t eat after 8pm.

I shouldn’t eat carbs.

I should drink less wine.

This creates a ton of pressure inside yourself to do or be something based on what you think you’re supposed to do or be.

A wise woman once told me “stop shoulding on yourself!”, and she wasn’t wrong.

My advice? Replace "should" with “I want…” “I can…” “I will…” “I am…”

This is also where your Higher Guidance can support you. Your Higher Guidance is the part of you that knows every thought, feeling and experience you’ve had in this lifetime, past lifetimes and will have in future lifetimes. It is your direct connection to the Universe and although compassionate and wants what is best for you, this part of you isn’t attached to human emotion in the same way our human body and mind is, therefore it knows what is for your greatest and highest good and the path of least resistance to get there.

In my Spiritually Guided Life Coaching sessions I connect with your Higher Guidance to lead the session. Using various tools (my pendulum, oracle cards, my clairsentience, clairvoyance and clairaudience skills) I receive guidance and messages to deliver to you, which advise you on what you need to pay attention to and what direction to take next, to move towards what is for your greatest and highest good.

But even your Higher Guidance doesn’t “should” on you. You still have free will, and this is where Spiritually Guided Life Coaching can support your choices and decisions, by helping you to organise your thoughts, feelings and emotions, and help you take inspired action towards the life you really want to live, removing any obstacles in your thinking along the way.

Having something bigger and wiser than ourselves laying out the breadcrumbs? That certainly helps!

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