Updated: Oct 8, 2020
The words we speak (and think) create the (emotional) house we live in. You get the outcome of your thoughts. This "mind chatter" holds a lot of power to create your reality.
What I’d like to bring into your awareness today is the power of your expectations.
“What you expect, you will get.”
If you expect your day is going to be rubbish, you are actually giving instruction to your unconscious mind to ensure you notice (and invite) rubbish things.
If you expect that you’re not good enough or worthy enough of something, that becomes your reality too.
On the other hand, if you expect your day to be great, your unconscious mind will help you notice things that are great. If you expect that you are good enough and worthy enough, you will be.
Here’s a short story about how our expectations can change the outcome:
During a seminar in the mid-80s, the presenter, Dr Barnes, blindfolded a volunteer from the audience and explained to the gentleman that he was going to be bringing a hot iron (the kind used for ironing clothes) closer and closer to his body until the man said he could feel the heat. Throughout the groundwork he laid, Barnes repeated several times, “Remember, don’t move. I don’t want to hurt you.”
In the first part of the demonstration, Dr Barnes held the iron about 2 feet away, face level. “Okay” he said, “I’m getting closer, getting closer…tell me the moment you can feel the heat…just don’t move…I don’t want to hurt you…okay, I’m getting closer…don’t move!”
When the iron was about 12-18 inches from his face, the man said he could feel it getting warmer. Then Barnes said he was bringing the iron closer, but in reality Barnes actually increased the distance between the iron and the man’s face.
When he was nearly back to the original starting place, the man said “Okay! It’s hot! I feel it!”
Dr Barnes tells the volunteer he is going to start again from 2 feet away and bring the iron closer. This time, Dr Barnes purposely drops the iron a safe distance from the man and at the moment he did so, his assistant, who was standing next to the volunteer as “extra insurance” brushed the man’s hand with an ice cube. Quickly setting that aside, she removed his blindfold.
The volunteer saw Dr Barnes in the process of picking up the iron and setting it aside, apologising profusely as he did so.
Dr Barnes made such a fuss over the “wound” and asks his assistant for a bandage which he applies to the back of the man’s hand where the ice cube had touched it.
A few minutes later the bandage was removed to reveal that a blister had formed. Barnes said a blister formed in demonstrations like these about 90% of the time.
If you are someone who lives life with a "glass half empty" mentality, you are choosing to create a reality that matches that expectation.
So how do you change this?
I don't believe in "fake it 'til you make it". It works if you try hard enough and for long enough, but you're simply plastering over what has conditioned you to think this way.
I believe in addressing the root cause of these thought patterns; pulling out the weed (a limiting belief) and planting a pretty new flower in its place (a new self-empowering belief).
If you give yourself the time and space to look at them more closely, changing your beliefs can happen quickly. Others might take a bit of elbow grease to unplug and rewire. Either way, you owe it to yourself to find a new way to look at the world, to change your expectations and therefore change your reality.
Something magical happens when you set a positive expectation. You get what you expect.
If you are ready to see yourself and the world differently, book a Coaching Consultation with me today. CLICK HERE to book.
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